Yes, I like the Bachelor. Not because I think it will lead to true love, but because it is fascinating to me to watch what people will do when under such intensive "romantic" stress, while being plied with network ideals about what they need to stay a popular show - not to mention tons of alcohol.
Most of the Bachelors will choose the girl they find the most sexually open and attractive. Even if every other person is telling them how awful and manipulative they are, sexual attraction almost always wins. What else explains Jake picking that awful girl whose name escapes me, or Ben picking that tramp model who obviously was making it clear he was well below her standards.
Or Jason, that guy who was literally crucified for dumping the "winner' he had no (non-sexual) interest in for the woman who would eventually become his wife. (One of the few surviving couples I might add)
And the women, well they tend to pick the guys that are the best at appearing to be great guys while not really giving up anything real, not the guys who would actually make them the happiest. Andi picking Josh, the guy she could not stop arguing with, or Ali lusting after the guy who abandoned her in, Tahiti, I believe.
And don't get me started on that dentist girl who kept the guy who was talking major crap about her behind her back. And Kaitlyin and Nick. Come on. He was playing her like a fiddle and she almost fell for it. Or Jillian and the "straight" guy who couldn't keep it up on their overnight date....hmmm. Girls tend to want what they don't or "can't" have.
My point is that I think it is very hard to choose a lifetime mate over a span of six weeks. Human nature and hormonal lust gets in the way every time. And this whole Bachelor in Paradise, well that is a whole firestorm of bad decisions. Basically drunken fools trying to stay in paradise to avoid their horrible real lives. Everyone plays everyone and it's fabulous TV. But occasionally someone forgets that this is not, in fact, real life and gets attached.
This was the case with Carly and Kirk. For weeks they were one of the exclusive couples who always gave each other the rose and this somehow gave Carly the idea that they were going to be together forever. This was squashed when, on the night before "real life" was to begin (the last week of the show) Kirk called it off. Not surprising, considering that two weeks in, he was already having doubts and wanting to end it, when ABC intervened and gave them a "fantasy suite" and Kirk got lucky. Then of course he couldn't end it without looking like a major douche.
But fast forward to the end of the show when Kirk's doubts once again creeped in, this time after Carly told him she could see him with their kids and was ready to marry him. Wow. Can't imagine why this would freak out a guy who took time out of his life to live on an island and to be on a reality show for six weeks. I mean really.
So he crushed her soul and she was, understandably, angry and wouldn't allow him to work out his guilt by telling her how sorry he was. This is was pretty uncomfortable to watch and while I totally feel for her, I hope she knows that she will be okay. I am sure by now she is ok, and I hope she doesn't allow it to eat at her soul any more than it already has. Sure you opened up to the wrong guy at the wrong time and it sucks and he did totally take advantage, but that's ok. If you never let anyone in to break your heart, you will never learn what it is to actually love.
I realized while watching it that I think I am actually a grown up now because in the past I would have probably felt her pain for her. But now I have been through so much more and have had my heart broken and yet I am still alive and am definitely a better person for it. Especially when it is something you rarely do, it's very important to make sure you don't let it harden you, but to open up from it and learn from it. It will prepare you for when the right person does come along.
And that's my reality show lesson of the week....
Big Brother. Gross. I am not so grown-up when watching it, I am having a hard time caring because I really liked James and wanted him to win. When he went home I was not only sad about that, but angry at the short sitedness the other houseguests exhibited by leaving Vanessa and the Austwins in the house to live another day.
Vanessa just angers me like no one else. I think because she is just so manipulative and should have been sent home already. I am happy that the the threesome of Austin and twins will likely be broken up this week but I really want Vanessa gone. She cannot get to top two because she will have all the arguments to win.
And, if I am being honest, she does deserve to win. I just don't want her to. I guess I am rooting for anyone but her. Steve is too wimpy,so I guess John is my first choice even if he has aligned himself with the devil herself. I haven't felt this strongly about someone not winning since Maggie and her band of bible thumpers ran over the house and backdoored Kaysar. I have horrible luck with this show. No one I like ever wins! Wah Wah Wah!!!!
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